When did doing something ‘like a girl’ become an insult?
The part that gets me is at the end of the commercial, when they ask one of the first ladies if she had a chance to do her demonstration of “running like a girl” over again, what would she do differently and she says, “I would run like myself.” I legit cried.
See how chill and non-competitive your life gets when you don’t judge other girls in how they dress, do their makeup, or how many selfies they take. Take a nap by a window, glow up
In this video, I talk about the definition of racism I was raised with vs the actual definition of racism. I also discuss the subject of “reverse racism”.
First, thank you for your courageous work, for being out there and making the world smarter. I as a white cis straight male am always grateful for voices who are not arguing from my perspective on issues of gender and race and sexuality and I’m learning a lot.
I would like to say something to my fellow white folks about defining racism and how the first definition – the one you were raised with – is itself an act of racist oppression that white folks like me need to stop defending asap.
This applies to men defining sexism or feminism, cis people defining transphobia or straight people defining homophobia as well. Just generally what happens when the people in power set the terms of what can be labelled oppressive or not.
The first definition you talk about allows white people to slip out of productive conversations about race:
- you say something about white people, they hear reverse racism, conversation over.
- you call a white person out on their racist behavior, they say they “like” colored folks, unfair attack or misreading me, conversation over.
- you point to a racist law or policy, nobody meant for colored people to be hit hardest, it’s just how it turned out, the colored people must have done something wrong, conversation over.
- I’m not racist, but…
…and so on.
As long as “racism” means “disliking people from different race” everybody gets a free pass. I don’t mean it that way, so it was not racist. And if you criticise you are unfairly attacking me, blabla, I’m a nice guy blabla, you are just playing the race card, whawha.
The colloquial use of the term “racism” is like an impenetrable shield against criticism and change because it protects the oppressive systems and behaviors we have by not letting us talk about it.
So, dear white people, definitions are man-made devices to serve a specific purpose in conversations, in education, in politics, in culture, in science… People found something, recognized something as a thing/concept and gave it a name so we can work with that thing together.
And if there are multiple definitions of racism out there, we have to choose the one that let’s us talk about racism in a productive way, not the one that let’s us white people of the hook and shuts people of color up.
Silencing people of color is racist.
Not taking responsibility as a white person for fighting the racial injustices caused and maintained by the white people we pay for, we vote for, we work for and by ourselves – just reaping the benefits of it – is racist.
White people don’t get to define what racism is. The oppressors don’t get to define what oppression is. No matter how educated a white person is, how many books on our shelfs confirm our view, how big we made it professionally, how old and wise we are, we white people SUCK at defining racism, because – as humans do – nobody wants to be evil, so we cover our ass.
Stop covering your ass. If you use a definition of racism – or sexism or homophobia or transphobia – that is not forcing your conscience to change yourself a little everyday, you are doing it wrong. No matter what the elders told you.
I have a mighty need.
how can a skeleton have such a smug look on his face his head is literally a piece of fucking bone with no lips or eyebrows what the fuck man